הכרויות דיסקרטיות|הכרויות חינם סקס

I keep hearing from women in my life and online about how annoying it is when guys try to slide into their DMs or hit on them. They talk about how many guys are trying at once and how exhausting it all is.

It’s left me stuck between two thoughts:

(1) how would I even stand out from all these other guys, and (2) what’s the point of trying if the attention itself is unwanted?

So I’ve basically never made a move on anyone. I can’t compete with the other dudes, AND everything I hear tells me the attempt itself is the problem. So no instagram reels, no double text, and I don’t reach out unless they reach out. It feels like a lose-lose. Do nothing I’m damned do something I’m damned.

Can someone help me out; I think I’ll be single for life if I don’t get the answer to this paradox